Pal Inder Singh Chahal
( Paul Chahal )
San Jose, CA 95148
16 Sept. 2015
Contents CopyLeft by CHAHALnet.com 2015 Sept.
God designed you and your marriage. In Shri Guru Granth Sahib, 56 pages are dedicated to marriage and bliss. It is in Soohi Raag, exactly in the middle of the Shri Granth Sahib: the reason whenever Guru Sahib’s Hukamnama (the Order of the Day) is read, it is typically from Soohi Raag! It is not incidental, rather it is by God’s design.
Social scientists have done experimentation: they took pre-teen-agers on an island to grow as nature would grow them. After a decade when the scientists visited the island, the newly became adults were living exclusive-pairs, just like marriage! So there is something wired in humans which lends itself to marriage.
To make God happy, is very easy. It is the spouse which is difficult to worship! In fact, by design, God is testing us, if or when we become a blissful-couple in marriage we automatically get salvation!
Stop working or worshiping on God, rather work/worship on your Demi-God: your spouse!
God is always in Bliss, it is the Demi-God of your life, who changes moods ten times every minute!
God is everlasting, stable, does not increase or decrease, it is your Dem-God spouse that needs most worships and care!
Go sing the praises of your Demi-God, the spouse, God will
be automatically happy!
a) Address your spouse with utmost sweetness and humility.
b) Admit your human shortcomings in habits. You cannot hide your shortcomings for too long.
c) Early one admits, easier it becomes on both partners.
a) Appearances are for the world, for your family your internal virtues matter the most.
a) God does not like arrogance; same is true about your partner.
We humans learn by imitating others. This entire growth of society, building flying machines (Airplanes) to thinking machines (Computers) has been possible with humans learning from the experience of others. They build on the knowledge of previous people.
God does not like arrogance; same is true about your partner
So to become a saint, go to the company of saints. And to become a great businessman go attend business colleges and seminars.
Marriage is a life-long journey, lesser the self-love, more the bliss in marriage.
All the bliss of marriage flows from Almighty. More you will bring spirituality to your spouse, more your bliss will grow.
Whatever good is done by your spouse, give the credit to spouse, rest you can say, “It was God’s Will!”
Mere talks are not going to get you the bliss.
Even if your spouse has not joined in your mission, you set up the example.
The purity and bliss go hand in hand.
People are like flowers, they bloom with praise.
To focus the attention of your spouse for area needing improvement, say encouraging words showing progress, “Honey, you are doing much greater than last month. Now you are calmer and better!”
The wisdom comes from God, so say your prayers silently. It works wonders to improve people.
The best way to assure presence of other supporting people is to develop a team around you.
The worldly happiness is expressed thru singing and dancing.
Do not feel self-conscious. Take some lessons if necessary.
But do dance publically as a couple in social gatherings.
The world judges you by clothes. So take advantage of good and simple clothes.
Provide encouraging, supporting and uplifting guidance and help to your spouse.
The humans are hungry to connect with each other. By applying massage to feet or back, is a great way to provide love-full and soothing touch to your spouse.